Opinion: Maybe Ray Rice will change, but will the rest of us?

Karen Jarmoc
Karen Jarmoc

Karen Jarmoc is the chief executive officer of Connecticut Coalition Against Domestic Violence. Please call the statewide domestic violence hotline at 888-774-2900 if you or someone you know needs help.

There have been a number of disturbing videos related to Ray Rice’s assault of his then-fiancé, now wife, that have been released to the public. Each one worse than the last. First was the video of Ray Rice dragging his unconscious partner out of an elevator and dropping her on the floor.

The second horrific video was the press conference Ray Rice held in May with a Baltimore Ravens backdrop and his victim by his side. He apologized to a number of people that day, none of whom were his wife. As a domestic violence advocate, I saw a woman terrified to say anything wrong. Terrified to have her true voice heard, instead talking about her supposed role in the assault.

The third horrific video was the second press conference Ray Rice held in July following the announcement of a lenient two-game suspension by the NFL. Mr. Rice stood before the cameras and repeatedly referred to an “incident.” He never once said that he punched his wife and needed to get help for committing domestic violence.

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2 responses to “Opinion: Maybe Ray Rice will change, but will the rest of us?”

  1. EveT

    Until we as a society start asking, “how can we raise our sons to treat women as equals?” this will never stop. We always ask, “how can we raise our daughters not to be victims?” That is the wrong question. The vast majority of domestic violence and dating violence is committed by men and boys. They are responsible for their actions. We need to teach them that violence against someone you supposedly love is unacceptable, period.

  2. Oldtimer

    Any police officer can attest to how many arrests for domestic violence end up with the victim pleading with the court to release the abuser (husband, boyfriend) for a variety of reasons focused on the family needs his support and he has promised (once again) that it will never happen again. First, we need to educate our sons and daughters that domestic assault is a crime and should never be tolerated. Then we need to get the courts to hand out real sentences for every proven case of assault, with no exceptions.

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