Please – stay home

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Dear Norwalk, Fairfield County, State of Connecticut, Everyone:

I am quite sad today as I look at the news, read the social media, and listen to the radio. We are so very divided at a time that we should look to come together in unity to defeat an enemy that in its elegance is praying on our better instincts. I know that this has been a hard eight months. For me it has been wrought with anxiety, sadness, pain and fear. But now we are facing decisions that have the ability to shape the next few months into complete and utter chaos and death or a holding pattern that will get us to a vaccine that will get us back on the road to recovery and spare the loss of life.

Please stay at home. I know how much we all long to see our families, to hold our children and grandchildren to us. To drink with our cousins and eat in fellowship with close friends. To share the day of thanks with those we love. But this virus knows this and would love for us to do just that so that it can continue on its journey of destruction. I am not implying that Sars-CoV-2 is sentient, but I am saying that the very environment that we are all longing for is the very place that this disease spreads the best. I realize that we all trust our families and friends, that we believe that they would only have our best interests as well as theirs in mind when attending a gathering, but if they were infected and did not realize it, they would be bringing that scourge to your house, where it would spread. This is a simple equation.

I know there are some of you who look at people like me as sheeple, blindly following hard science just because someone told me to. Nothing could be further from my truth. I know people who have died of COVID-19 though they are not close to me. I know people who have contracted the disease and who have recovered or are still fighting it. Some were mild cases; others were severe, and some have had health issues since recovery. A few of these people had underlying conditions and others did not. My point is Sars-CoV-2 doesn’t really care. It just wants a host so that it can replicate and cause the disease COVID-19. Then on to the next one.

Those of you who do not believe this is a real crisis or who want the government to step in to stop all the mask wearing and school closures, who scream that our officials are not doing anything or enough are quite wrong. They are doing a lot. They are telling us every day how wearing a mask can protect you and those around you.  They are limiting gathering sizes to slow the spread and sending out guidelines to follow that will keep us safe. They are tirelessly finding ways to keep our children educated and our cities safe. We need to listen to them, not just to the things that we want to hear but to all the things they are saying. The information is there for us to digest, and then implement in our own lives, so we can slow this thing down and get us through the next few months to the point where the science gets to fight back and slow or stop the spread. But for now, we need to use those more primitive measures.  Wear a mask, stay physically distant and wash our hands.

I implore you all. Change your grand plans. Stay home and use technology to connect this year. Cancel the flights to see large extended families. Unpack the car for the journey. Please take care of yourselves and those in your immediate circle. Make a plate and take it over to your parents, or aunts and uncles or that neighbor that lives alone. Sit outside bundled up with a mask and chat for a few minutes. We need to be diligent for a while longer, and then we win. We can get back to a new normal post pandemic, and we stop losing people we love. For all of our sakes I implore you to be safe.


David Heuvelman

Common Council member


Denise DeMarsh November 22, 2020 at 12:31 am

Bravo. You hit the nail on the head. But I fear these messages of sanity are simultaneously preaching to the choir (of which I’m a member) & falling on the wilfully deaf ears of the determinedly unconvinced.

Red headed movie star November 23, 2020 at 6:51 am

Right On! Thank you for taking the time to write your request. I hope all follow it. We are.

Noelle McElaney November 23, 2020 at 7:15 am

Thank you for the courage to speak truth in this era of such truth decay. The saddest part is the lack of leadership at the top.. Missing one holiday does not spell the End of life but sadly… celebrating together this year will mean exactly that! This virus doesnt care how great Americans are. My heart goes out to our healthcare workers who will bear the brunt of our folly.

Rosemarie Reardon November 23, 2020 at 8:53 am

Thank you for this clear plea for reason. As a psychologist of over 40 years I can tell you that denial and self centered thinking are neck and neck with ignorance and willful lack of regard to the obvious truth.

JustaTaxpayer November 23, 2020 at 9:10 am

What do we make of Operation Warp Speed? Pretty amazing progress and a miracle that multiple companies have a vaccine just after the election!

Sit outside bundled up with a mask? Can do that after I run to Stews, Costco and Walmart.

Walden Mathews November 23, 2020 at 10:37 am


“Blindly following hard science” — does not compute. The essence of science is to overcome blind followings of any kind, and to challenge everything. That you know someone who you think was ill with COVID-19, and therefore you urge everyone to stay home, is about as unscientific as you could get.

Since you’re interested in “hard science”, I have a few questions for you:

1. In what lab was the SARS-Cov-2 virus isolated and purified?

2. Who invented the “polymerase chain reaction” process? Did the inventor certify the method for diagnosis?

3. What is a “cycle threshold”? What power of amplification is achieved after 40 cycles?

4. How many people died of tuberculosis last year?

Have at it, Dave. I’ll bet your heart is in the right place. Let’s see if your grasp of facts would like to join.

Walden Mathews

NiZ November 24, 2020 at 8:23 am

It’s been 9 months of responsible quarantines and distancing. The common sense of build up your immune system, eat right, exercise and never let fear take over, be the message. And thank you to Walden Mathews for asking the questions you did.

Bryan Meek November 24, 2020 at 11:38 am

@Walden. The answers to your questions are rooted in Political Science.

The fact is the WHO currently has this virus’ mortality rate at 0.18%. That is out of 10,000 who get infected 18 have perished and that number is sinking fast as tests accelerate. This places it squarely as the 4th most deadly pandemic well behind the mortality rates of Spanish and Hong Kong flus which happened when international travel was 1/100th of what it is today.

Cue up the naysayers who will undoubtedly accuse me of wanting people to die, but the brass tax is we’ve all been played. Hopefully the lessons learned will carry to the next pandemic and we won’t kill millions more from starvation and poverty because of it.

George November 25, 2020 at 12:34 pm

If you go to https://covidusa.net you can access Federal and State case numbers.

It clearly points out that Ct, NY and NJ has the highest mortality rates in the USA. Ct at 4.5% NY with 5.7% and NJ with 5.4%.

The three Governors want to stick together yet with the exception of the Northern Mariana Islands at 18 .3 percent I am not staying home and would be better off traveling to Texas, Florida or other points south.

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